Archive for August, 2009

Fear is an incredible thing.  Sounds crazy, I know… but think about it.  Your fears can be the driving force in your life.  Fear of failure drives many to succeed and go the extra mile.  Fear of poverty makes us become better savers of money.  Fear of going to a “hell” or a “hellish” afterlife can cause us to become very kind and generous to people.

In my case fear of chronic illness, getting obese and unattractive, and fear of early aging all serve to drive my mission and purpose:  To research and find ways of getting healthier, stronger, happier, more balanced, more fit, and more youthful.

In my own quest of running away from my fears, I serve others and make a living by teaching, treating, adjusting, coaching, and speaking to others about how to avoid the things I fear.

THANK GOD FOR MY FEARS.

But fear has it’s downside–I’m sure you’re well aware.

Fear, in it’s extreme cases, can cause such a level of anxiety that instead of pushing you forward, it holds you back.

It holds you back from being the best you can be with all the talents you’ve been given.

There is something you know you really want to be doing—would LOVE to be doing with your life RIGHT NOW.  I know because there isn’t a person who I have met or coached that doesn’t have an inner voice that propels them to do something very cool with their lives, whether they’re aware of it or not.

Not only that, but add on the daily fears— fears that are so constant, and so part of who you are that you walk through your life in a constant state of panic, as though your life is in continuous danger.

The problem with this high level of anxiety is that if left unchecked and unresolved, it could build up to the point that you have a panic “attack” where you suddenly feel like you’re at the end of your rope.

If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone.  Everyone feels varying degrees of fear, anxiety, and depressive states.  It’s all part of the human experience.

The question is, what are you going to do about it?

If you’re like most people in North America, you could end up in a medical doctor’s office, who has training in recognizing signs, symptoms and labeling states of disorders and different states of adaptive physiology.  But be aware…. the only treatments they are trained to offer in medical school are MEDICAL ones.

My biggest challenge in my chiropractic practice is seeing patients in chronic pain, who also happen to be on anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication.

Though they come to me to “relieve their pain”, I find myself wanting to delve into their underlying emotional root causes in addition to their symptoms because I’m seeing more and more how the two are intimately linked together.

Luckily there is help for those seeking to start their inward–bound journey to awakening their own inner healer.

We have a “Law of Attraction for the Advanced Manifestor” seminar that will make you go inward like you’ve never gone before.  Please do not attend if you expect a “here’s the secret to happiness” seminar.  There’s no such thing.

But if you are one of those seeking an awareness and a path to overcome whatever fear that stands in your way to fulfilling your relationships, your career, you mind and body health, and your finances–that’s basically our target audience.

I was lucky enough to discover at a young age that our coping mechanisms for our fears, anxieties and stresses aren’t skills that ever get taught in school.  In school, I learned how to type, but I didn’t learn how to handle relationship conflicts with friends and family, and most importantly, myself.

What happens when we allow our fears to take control of our lives.

My mission is to teach these skills to children and adults around the world in one-on-one and one-on-many form to empower people to realize that their thoughts, perceptions, lifestyle choices, actions, and foods that they eat play a more significant role in shaping their health than anything else in the world.

In the meantime, I’ll just keep using my fears to my (and your) advantage.

So what can YOU do about it?

Aside from going inward and learning more about yourself in courses and seminars, it would be wise for everyone to take the time and ponder on some empowering questions:

1—What is my greatest fear?

2—What are the benefits of me living with this fear? (They wouldn’t be there unless there were some benefit you’re getting out of it)

3—What is this fear costing me in my relationships, career, in my physical, emotional, and financial health?

The problem is, we seldom take the time to ask ourselves these important questions.  And our mind/body health can deteriorate because of it.

Click here to see date and location of “Law of Attraction for the Advanced Manifestor” class (scroll to bottom)

“Hey boss!”

It's a dirty job, but someone's gotta do it.

The word itself is enough to make me cringe.  Although people have a natural fear and public display of respect for whoever is the boss, you can’t help but resent anyone who holds the title.  As my career has developed into manifesting the ownership of one of Greater Vancouver’s largest Multi-disciplinary Alternative Wellness Clinics, I look back on the past 2 years of being “the boss” and I realize something:

No matter what books you read, or seminars you attend, you can never be REALLY ready for the challenges you face in that position.  Here’s what I have learned.

1)   Everyone is going to try to “get away” with whatever they can.  You can’t blame them, because we all are the same.  All you can do is to be clear on your boundaries and make your expectations clear.

2) Speak up when those boundaries have been crossed, or suffer the consequences later.

3) Become aware of your weaknesses, and delegate those tasks to others who are good at them.

4)  If you don’t prioritize your day with productive activities, then non-productive, energy draining tasks will take over your day.  Guaranteed.

5)  Become extremely comfortable not being liked.  No matter what you do… I repeat… NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO… people will like you and dislike you.  So embrace it and do what you love to do.  Side note:  Most people can’t handle not being liked, and thats why being the boss is not for the faint of heart.

6)  If you pay peanuts, you end up with monkeys.

7)  Humans require inspiration to take massive action.  People have blown themselves up and crashed airplanes into buildings because they they had something they believed in.  Become inspired, share your vision, and you’ll be surprised at how others will catch that inspiration and jump on board with your vision.

8-  Life is a struggle to stay in the present moment.  Every day, you will be bombarded with 30-50 opportunities to take you into past remembered guilts, or future imagined fears.  Learn the art of recognizing they are just illusions and all that matters is what is in front of you NOW.  Once you have mastered this art, write a book about it and make millions.  And please send me royalties for giving you the idea.

9)  The most successful people in the world are those that have understood how to combine their spiritual nature with their material nature, and kept both in harmonic balance.  Fall out of equilibrium, that is– try to give something for nothing or try to get something for nothing, and the universe will let you know by giving you a few gifts to make you aware of the disequilibrium.  Those gifts are: Stress, resentment, frustration, anxiety, and depression, fear, and guilt.  What better way to remind you to balance your give and take with the world than to make you extremely uncomfortable?

10)  Everyone is replaceable in your company except YOU.  Appreciate your co-workers, but never infatuate with them or make them feel that you are worthless without them.  Give anyone that power and they will eat you alive.  Put the needs of the company FIRST.  Nobody has a job without the company being healthy FIRST.  I used to think the opposite.  The school of hard knocks taught me otherwise.

11)  Being the boss is not as easy as you think it is.  My respect for successful entrepeneurs has skyrocketed because I KNOW how difficult it is.  The higher up you climb up that ladder, the more people can see your butt.  And it’s so easy to take shots at the one who’s at the top.

I know these are specific to “bosses” but when you look carefully at each of these and they can relate to us being the “boss” of our own lives.  These principles are universal, and they all address how important it is to respect and honor ourselves when we relate to others.  Failed businesses, failed relationships, and deteriorating health all result from people who don’t love themselves enough to put themselves on equal ground with others and speak up when they have needed to.

Any other pearls of wisdom, feel free to comment.