Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

Imagine it was 40 years ago. And your parents were about to make an important decision.They were sitting on an opportunity to help them heal a part of themselves.They were on the precipice of deciding if NOW is the timeto resolve some of their childhood wounding. The...

“It’s too late for me” is something I’ve been hearing quite a bit in my worldof relationship / Trauma bonding recovery. It’s sad to hear— especially when there’s a more empowering perspective there. We all want secure relationships, and if you’re a parent, of coursewe...

If you are dealing with an insecure attachment,narcissistic/codependent relational dynamics,or anxious avoidant patterns….   YOU CAN BLAME YOUR PARENTS FOR THAT.   (I’m half kidding here, by the way).   Just here to let you know how common this is.   Sometimes I think...

In 2018, I remember hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Shame— that feeling of being “inherently bad inside” the feeling behind the reason people end their lives….   Is not something we are born with:   It’s something we are born INTO.   Like a fish being...

(3 minute read) As I'm now three years deep in the parenting game, I am noticing how parenting styles have shifted through the generations. When your parents were raised, the cultural conditioning was“spare the rod, spoil the child,”with parents taking on more of an...

If you have a sibling, think of what it was like when you were younger and got into a conflict with them.   How did your parents react to you?   Taking sides, frustration, shaming, invalidation... Often not helpful in repair and resolution.   I never really thought...

(4 min read)   In the book “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene, he summarizes in a beautiful way the focus of my life’s work:   Think back to your younger self-- growing up as a child (if you can remember it):   In the first 3 or 4 years our brains are especially...

Like millions of parents out there, Jenny had an anxious kid. The worst part of seeing our kids struggle with anxietyis the feeling of powerlessness we have.We just want them to know they’re going to be ok. “Calm down”“Take deep breaths”“don’t be anxious” are likely...

I remember the moment when I decided I was never going to invite my friend to stay over again.   Our friendship had deepened over time. We would go out to the clubs to dance with the ladies.   Sometimes we would double date.   I was new to the city and my social...