Posts Tagged ‘Personal Development’

Warning.  This may offend some.  Those that have no sense of humor, no charm, wit, sense of playfulness (or good looks)– please do not watch this video.  Those that have problems watching others promote to the world in a fun way what they love to do should avoid my website, facebook, twitter posts with every fiber of their being.

I’ve been criticized by some in the profession for not being professional or too “self-promoting”.  Good.  I’m glad I’ve pissed a few people off.  I’ve watched dozens of my peers do their best to put up videos promoting their practices– first off– Good for you, I applaud you for your courage.  You can’t do or say anything without your critics.  I know– because I too, am a critic of the way we are approaching our health.  I just want to put out videos that make people smile, laugh, and like you will see in this case… cringe.  Please stay tuned for Part 2.

Please enjoy.  Thanks for watching.  And thank you to Tobin for his creative genius and Maria for her great work.

I’ve been frustrated at work lately.

“Doc, it hurts, please fix my________ and make it go away.” (enter Pain, Anxiety, Depression, Cancer, Diabetes, or whatever symptom or disease).

Old Model: Doc assesses with expensive tests, gives diagnosis, and provides some sort of medical therapy (drugs or surgery or “nothing cuz we don’t know what to do for you”).

New Model: I’m not concerned only with your pain/condition. I’m concerned with teaching you first what you need in order to be healthy in the body and mind, and fulfilled in life.
Now I admit, I’ve been beating my head against a wall lately. Imagine trying to practice this “new model” method in an “old model” world.

Imagine people are so used to McDonalds cheeseburgers, it’s no longer satisfying anymore— and it’s making them sick…. So they come to a steakhouse… asking for the same cheeseburger bullshit and expecting a different result. Welcome to my life lately.

I used to call myself a Chiropractor, but the negative connotation associated with it can be a challenge.  I don’t label myself anything anymore. I’m a Wellness/Lifestyle Doctor (becoming an expert). If you’re in any state of less than 100% well-being, REGARDLESS OF YOUR DIAGNOSIS and whatever toxins they are having you take…. You can’t live at 100% if you don’t follow these simple rules:

1) Innate Body—Sufficient Movement, Sufficient Nutrition and Spinal Balance and 100% function. Any imbalances, toxicities or deficiencies with the body must be corrected if the person’s goal is to get healthier.

My biggest challenge? Knowing that patients are coming in to see me for physical complaints, and they happen to be on anti-depressant or anxiety meds not knowing the truth: That in order to start to bring the mind/mental/emotional aspect into balance, you’re wasting your time and energy, effort, money, and compromising your health in a very serious manner— if you haven’t started with #1 described above. They’ve been fed lies about why they need meds.  Without a healthy functioning body, spine and nervous system, sufficiencies in movement and nutrition, and removing the toxicities— your mind will not function in a normal, healthy manner. PERIOD.

2)Innate Mind—Once the body has been sufficiently nurtured (through lifestyle and chiropractic care), most mental/emotional conditions tend to become lessened. You start feeling better emotionally. You handle stress more resiliently. But if there are still “incomplete stories” from the past or present—it makes sense to start working on them now that your body is moving towards balance. Getting help with your social or family network, classes, books, seminars, coaching, or guidance from a therapist or counselor who doesn’t promote your story of victimhood is the way to go. I happen to love this aspect of my job. I’m noticing that I have been looking more and more forward to the classes and workshops I teach at my office more than seeing new patients walk in off the street.

Why is this critical? Because nowhere in school do we learn how to properly deal with adversity. Nowhere in school do we learn how to have a healthy relationship with ourselves and our money, or proper expectations in a relationship. Nowhere in our school do we learn the importance of having a healthy level of self esteem and connection with a community. It’s mentioned, but never really taught. Where did YOU learn these things? Who are YOUR role models?

Wayne Dyer: One of the teachers I would recommend learning from on how to deal with adversity and "emotional subluxation".

WHAT IS AN “EMOTIONAL SUBLUXATION?”

One of my biggest Aha moments was that an emotional subluxation can exist. It is any thought or perception you may have that creates a state of ingratitude. Emotional subluxations are epidemic. I get them every day.  I’m actually going through a big one right now as we speak.  They need adjusting exactly the same way that spinal subluxations do.

An adjustment of an emotional subluxation is as simple as looking at your situation in a completely different way.
Yesterday a patient of mine came in for her regular adjustment. Mind and body she is 180 degrees from where she was 6 months ago… but she came to me with an emotional crisis. After her spinal adjustment (nurturing body)… I started adjusting her emotional subluxations (Mind).  It’s way easier than you think.

Gratitude Deficiency and your emotional well-being.

Over the past year, she has been battling a long term disability claim from some work incidents that created a state of “Post Traumatic Stress” in her life. She was off work, tumbled into worsening anxiety attacks and depression and it was impacting her life enjoyment and her marriage. She was looking for compensation, and naturally, the company she was working for was covering their ass by telling their own version of the story.
After reading their reports this past week, she was almost in a fit of rage inside, which we know creates all sorts of chemical changes that produce states of dis-ease in the mind and body. We had been working diligently with her over the past few months to the point that she was almost pain free, and her anxiety and depression had completely vanished. This last letter she received with those reports were almost enough to bring her back to that state after the main incident.

Emotional subluxations are not cleared by doing something magical or waving some wand or taking some pills.  They are cleared by asking a different set of questions.

The questions I asked her:
How has this incident at work helped you heal emotionally and physically? Were things just perfect with your life, health and marriage, and social network before it all happened? How has this helped your all of those things?

She responded with no—things were definitely not perfect before. Then she started telling me about how this incident made her see who her TRUE friends are, had got her introduced to chiropractic care (she met me at a community screening) which has her neck moving normally and pain free for the first time in ages, and by coming to my classes she has learned more about herself, her mind/body health and the way we respond to stress, how to cope with anxiety and depression, and in her marriage, she saw how her husband was sitting by her side until 2 in the morning to help type out the legal stuff despite being tired from work.

Because she is of Christian Faith, I asked her if she’s aware that God has truly given her everything she has ever wanted, but done it in “mysterious ways”—working the way He is infamous for?

Pause.

She never really thought of it that way.

I believe that gratitude is the ultimate healer, accessible to all of us if we ask the right questions. I was lucky enough to be taught the right questions to clear out an emotional subluxation (disconnection). It only took a matter of minutes for the subluxation to clear. How do you know it’s clear? Tears of gratitude were streaming down her face.

And mine.

And when the body is alignment innately, the lifestyle is in alignment innately, and you’re in a state of gratitude for things just as they are…. Your life starts moving in a flow which can be best described by watching an expert surfer stand effortlessly riding a wave.  That’s the starting point many never reach and they go looking for the perfect doctor to give it to them from the outside-in……When it’s been inside the whole time.

It’s true. My adjustments are changing. My vision is expanding. I’m riding one massive wave here. Where it will go—I really couldn’t give a flying hoot. I’m deeply connected and finding that time stands still when I help people see and feel their truth in their lives.

Thank you for reading and being a part of my journey.

I’ve always been a fun-loving guy.  Always cracking jokes, acting a fool.  My mother would always tell me to try to be more serious.  For the most part, I’m still the same, but since a few years ago, I had noticed a sharp decline in my enjoyment for life.

What I’m about to share is not easy for me.

Hypocrisy at its finest

People come to me for a variety of reasons—namely they are experiencing headaches, neck pain, back pain, and aren’t living to their potential physically.  Going through my emotional ups and downs caused me to reflect and study a variety of personal development and “self-help” books and attend seminars.  I have also grown into a consultant/life coach and I help those who are going through anxious, depressed states, or people who are doing good and want to take it to the next level.  I’m also a speaker on Stress and produce videos that are (supposed to be) fun and entertaining.  Most of the feedback from the videos has been quite good—but you can’t please everyone.  My favorite comment was “now you wonder why doctors don’t take you guys seriously?”

I get random emails from Chiropractors around the world saying that I inspire them to take things to the next level and they want to someday reach the level that I’m at.

I’m here to tell you that when I get those emails, my psyche splits into two separate reactions.

The first one feels proud, honored, blessed and elated at the response.

The other voice says “are you kidding me?”

Confession: I feel like this sometimes too. Despite what my videos show.

The confession I wanted to make is that the reason why I teach about stress/anxiety/depressed states is because despite the fact that I have more to be grateful for than most people—I catch myself suffering from anxiety on occasion.  I get depressed on occasion.  I get down on myself, look at the glass half empty, feel unworthy, purposeless, and empty on occasion.  Ironic that the song for my last video was “put on a happy face”.  That’s right.  My videos are bullshit sometimes.

Anxiety is more common than you think.  There are millions of people suffering.  Some have gone to the doctor and have been labeled or “diagnosed”.  Millions are put on medication just to run away from the uncomfortable feelings and feel they can’t function without them.  Even more who aren’t diagnosed will self-medicate.

Going through my struggle with it, I have made some amazing realizations:

1)   Most times it’s not what you’re worried about that bothers you—it’s the actual feelings of anxiety you begin to fear.  You then start to fear the anxiety itself.  This creates a downward spiral that creates even more anxiety and hopelessness.
2)   Anxiety/Depression usually comes with a trigger—usually a stressful/traumatic event or loss that you don’t quite recover from, and the stress response from it follows you to create a state of alertness (anxiety) that keeps you from enjoying your life.
3)   Most human behavior is governed by your desire to run away from the uncomfortable feelings of anxiety.
4)   Anxiety exists in a spectrum, from general unease to full-blown panic attacks, and are a normal part of everyone’s life to a degree.

In my attempts to manage my anxiety, I mostly practice what I preach.  A proper diet makes a huge difference.  Exercise is a must—personally I don’t know how anyone can live through stress without it.

I’ve been doing some research on it and have made some breakthrough discoveries as of late.  This breakthrough discovery has the potential to change lives.  I now want to dedicate a great deal of time in helping my patients and community, and world (thanks to technology the world has gotten smaller) in dissolving anxiety, since stress is a huge part of it.

So what is the magical cure?

The cure is this:  Understanding and appreciating why it’s there.  You understand what anxiety is (a normal part of alertness that results from the stress response).  You study what happens to the brain when a stressful thought enters, and when you understand this, you realize that your symptoms are NORMAL.  You appreciate your body is working for you and giving you feedback… and you DANCE WITH IT.  You stop fighting it.

What’s abnormal is your constant resistance to them.  You then begin to beat yourself up.  Tell me if you can relate to some of the thoughts I found that I was saying to myself:

“Why do I feel this way?”

“Is this normal?

“Will this feeling ever go away?  Will I have to live with it for the rest of my life”

“How can I get rid of this feeling RIGHT AWAY?”  (These thoughts are the source of all addictions, by the way—“aha” moment for me).

And my personal number one thought process that has driven me almost to insanity a couple times:

“I hate how I feel!  I’m supposed to be happy!  Now the world will know I’m a complete fraud!”

Then it dawned on me.  Ever since I bought the Westgate clinic 3 and a half years ago, my responsibilities, as well as stress levels have quadrupled.

The VERY FIRST DAY of me taking over the company as the owner, my top 2 staff came in, cornered me and demanded raises (I had no idea if we could afford to do it) and it seemed like everyone was coming to me with their hands out. I had to manage not only my patients, but the complaints of every patient that walked in (we have 12-14 practitioners at a time).

Anyone who has ever run a business before will understand—a business carries overhead—expenses that are unexpected but are seemingly endless—broken equipment, renovations, computer upgrades, insurance, etc. etc.  Huge stressor!  These experiences were huge growth processes for me– my anxieties alienated me from some staff and associates and created major tension in my work relationships.

I got engaged and married within 6 months of buying Westgate Wellness Centre, and bought a house within the same year.  Anyone who has done those things will understand the process is not always a picnic.

Holy crap, talk about a mountain of responsibility to put on an inexperienced 31 year old.

The crazy thing about how the anxiety can destroy relationships– you feel so awful all the time and you try to make someone responsible for them– your co-workers or family members, and you unconsciously start to blame them and make them responsible for your happiness.  Pretty crazy stuff– huge growth lessons for me.

Slowly over the years, I noticed my stress levels climbing.  Why do you think I became an “expert” on stress and the body?  I decided to study the hell out of it—just to understand and get some peace of mind for my own sake.  I felt like I was drowning.  In fact “Stressbusters” was created in my lowest state—when I was in an emotional valley.  It was what I needed to pull me out.

Making my “Mess” my message

We all know the best way to learn is to teach–I decided to make my “mess” my message:  That your mental and physical health is entirely in your hands.  You are responsible for changing your environment (in how you eat, move, and think).  You have to be willing to become a student of life, of your judgments, of your values, and be willing to dig deep to find out what drives you, so you can take your biggest challenges of life to make the world better and to serve those that might be going through the same.

So I’m doing it.  The very act of writing this to YOU is an example of becoming present with it.  I suggest you start journalling your thoughts and do the same.

I’m documenting my story and the story of my clients who I’m helping who are going through the same stressful states.   I want to create educational materials to those that are struggling with stress, anxiety, and depression, and who want some guidance and mentoring to pull themselves out.  The way out is not easy, but it has a few essentials:

1)   Have a Clearly Functioning Nervous System. There have been times when my spine has been so stuck and I haven’t been aware because I wasn’t in pain.  After my adjustment, I felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders and mind.  This is because the nerve interference in your spine (subluxations) will trigger the stress response in the brain and body.

2) Move it or Lose it. You need to move and burn off that excess adrenaline that is coursing through your arteries and veins.  The fight or flight state most of us are in because of life challenges creates anxiety arousal in the brain (THIS IS NORMAL).  Exercise burns it off.  Plus it makes my butt and gut look good.

3) Eat Well! You need to stop putting toxins and non-foods and anti-nutrients in the body.  If you are going through any anxiety whatsoever, it’s critical you switch to whole foods without chemicals.  Go back to basics.  Stock up on raw veggies, limit sugar and processed foods.

4)   You need to start becoming comfortable being uncomfortable. Start to recognize your uncomfortable feelings and attribute them to the anxiety, not that something bad will happen.  Nobody ever died from the sensations of anxiety, even though sometimes it may feel that way.  If you learn to “sit in the fire” of the symptoms, and observe them without judging them and with a knowing they will go away—they will.  Once they resurface, you repeat the same process.  Sit through them, and don’t resist them and wish them away.  Smile at them.  They’re just sensations.  No real threat to life.  Dance with them and gain control.

I know this may come as a shock to many of you because you watch my videos or you have attended my seminars or seen me speak, or even met me and said “how the heck could this dude have anxiety—he can dance in front of people, act a fool, and speak in front of hundreds to thousands of people—how could he be stressed and anxious?”

Well I’m here to tell you that although I can shine in THOSE kinds of stressful environments, it’s only a public persona and not always the way it is.  But I’ve been working on it and it’s paying off dividends.

These tools have literally saved my life.  I don’t know if I would be able to move forward without them.

I will be writing more about this in the next post.

Please pass this along to someone you know who worries too much, who has been labeled as anxious or depressed (the two go hand in hand).

Looking forward to your feedback.

I’m not ashamed to admit it– I love being theatrical and acting.  I’m a repressed actor.  So every time an opportunity comes up for me to explore that kind of fun creativity, I jump on the chance.

I’m constantly re-defining myself.  I get bored way too easily.  At work, if I only have to be seeing those with Low Back Pain, Neck Pain, and Headaches all day– I’d shoot myself out of boredom.

Lately the thing that’s been inspiring me the most is teaching about changing lifestyle, particularly in terms of stress and overcoming “stories of suffering”.  I’ve been helping more and more people change their thoughts and perceptions about their own current life and showing them the magnificence that’s already there, if they can only learn to ask themselves the right questions.

The toughest, most stressful part of my job is having patients come to see me with physical ailments, and from the look on their faces they are in a state of crisis about the challenges going on in their lives, and when we start talking about it– they tell me that their GP is sending them to a Psychiatrist, and they are already on 2-4 different psychotropic medications, along with a slew of others that are given for stress-related stuff… and they are looking for “what’s wrong with them” and trying to come up with a “diagnosis”.  Most people have NO CLUE they already have everything within them to be healthy and emotionally balanced.  If they only took the time to empower themselves and take responsibility, and to ONLY USE MEDICINE FOR EMERGENCY CASES, and not rely on their doctor to rescue them.  This may sound cocky, but I know that there is a better way.  My goal is to reach those people who are willing to take their health in their own hands and to learn the tools to help THEMSELVES get there– mentally, emotionally, and physically.

So we’ve come back with a fresh look and a new fun video to show the world that what we do is unique and different.

I want to thank Tobin at http://www.photobinphotography.com for his great work and guidance, Eric Lee Harper for his musical talents, and all the dancers and volunteers involved in making this.  I had a blast with the process.

So here it is.  Feel free to share, retweet, and enjoy!

Getting physically active actually SHUTS DOWN the stress response.  If you don’t make physical activity a part of your life, then there is no excuse for you if you start to fall ill and get sick.  Your physiology, in order to function at 100% requires exercise of some sort.  You can’t blame genes if you are ill.  But exercise doesn’t have to be boring.  Check this out!

photo by www.photobinphotograpy.com

It’s not Rocket Science. If you are under a great deal of stress (which most people are), then being under the care of a chiropractor has been shown to remove tension from your nervous system.

Nobel Prize recipient Dr. Roger Sperry says that the spine is the motor that drives the brain. According to his research “90% of the stimulation and nutrition to the brain is generated by the movement of the spine.” Only 10% of our brain’s energy into thinking, metabolism, immunity, and healing. Sperry demonstrated that 90% of brain energy goes into processing and maintaining the body’s relationship with gravity.

Why this relates to you.

It means that every day your body not only has to cope with the stresses of your hectic day and family and work issues, but it now has to deal with the arduous task of having to adapt to the postural habits of sitting improperly and being out of alignment.  This makes your body have to adapt to EVEN MORE stress.  It makes you miserable. It gives you headaches, back pain, stomach issues, problems with balancing hormones, anxiety, depression, and anything else that is a dis-ease.

So here’s the strategy with my patients and students in my workshops:

1) Teach ‘em what stress does to the body

2) Keep their nervous system functioning at maximal levels to cope with physical and emotional  and chemical stress through chiropractic care.

3) Give them lifestyle tools on proper exercise and how to gain control of their eating habits and food addictions

4) Teach them how to change their thoughts and perceptions about their life stories and situations so they can let go of their past, and overcome fears about the future and have lives filled with purpose, gratitude and unconditional love.

It’s a strategy that’s changing lives.  It gets people connected to their purpose.  It’s making our community healthier.  It’s taking people’s reliance off of medication.

Stay tuned for episode 3!  As always, we welcome feedback, suggestions, as well as re-tweets and facebook recommendations.  Feel free to drop a comment about your experience as well.

This is me every day. If I didn't have powerful tools at my disposal, I wouldn't survive.

Do you ever feel that instead of life getting easier, it seems to get more complicated?   Do you ever catch yourself thinking “remember when things used to be simple?”

This year, I made a commitment to step outside my comfort zone and expand my reach.  As I did, I noticed the challenges seemed to pile up.  Trying to juggle running one of the Greater Vancouver’s largest Multi-Disciplinary Healing Centres, while having a busy patient load,  all the while speaking, writing, and coaching—and trying to balance all that with my married life (Happy wife- happy life)—let me tell you it isn’t easy.  I know you are busy too–going through your own specific challenges… if you have kids you’re probably thinking “Nima, you think you’re stressed now….wait until you have children!”

Breakthrough moment

I remember a time back this summer where I felt like my back was up against a wall.  That the world was caving in.  I remember feeling overwhelmed with the stresses of life… it was affecting my sleep and my relationships and overall enjoyment of life.  I then had an “aha” moment.

In every moment, you are either in crisis/survival mode or you are in a growth/repair/creation state.  You can’t be in both at the same time.  I had been bogged down so much that I stopped practicing what I preach.  So as the saying goes… “those that can’t do… TEACH”… I decided to turn my “mess” into my “Message”.

I started writing about the stress I was going through.  I started researching what these uninspiring, repetitive, destructive thoughts were doing to my mind and body.  What I discovered changed my life.   I poured my thoughts onto paper.  I realized that I could turn all the knowledge I had in my brain, organize it into a simple format—and then teach it to others and help save some lives.  But first I had to practice what I preached.  Let me explain to you what I mean.

What is stress?

In an ever-changing environment, you’re either adapting to the changes, or you are resisting them.  Stress comes from an inability to ADAPT to a changing environment.  It’s really that simple.  Yet so difficult.

Stress can come from being married to a woman for 10 years and then one day discovering that her work as a grocery store attendant was really a cover up for the CIA.  Stress can come from discovering that a relative you have been on bad terms with has suddenly died, and you are now faced with the guilt of not mending things in a life that’s way too short.  Stress comes from all of a sudden being faced with a change in your life.  But pre-historically, we didn’t have to worry about work, marital issues, financial problems.  Our main challenges were about finding food, and avoiding becoming food, or attack by another tribe.  Either you adapt to the changes in the environment, or you die.  Period.

As a Chiropractor in Maple Ridge, I have to be keenly aware of this reality when a patient shows up in my office.  I can see it in their eyes, I can feel it in the tension in their spine on palpation… Most people are in a chronic fight or flight state.  For months to years at a time.  You don’t have to look to hard—if you examine the overall state of health in our society, we’re on a progressive downward spiral.  I can remember a few weeks this year where I layed in my bed in a state of fear and panic about the challenges I had to face every single day.  It got so overwhelming that I had to step back into the basics.

What’s in store for you in 2011

It was exactly what I needed.  In this 5-part series called “Stressbusters”, I show you specifically what tools and strategies I used.  It was so fulfilling, I had to share it with the world.  My goal is that you will participate with me over the next several weeks as each episode is launched, and give me feedback on how you’ve been progressing.

My mission is to share with the planet the truth—that chemical imbalances in the mind and body that produce illness are mostly under our control.  This can only happen if we first realize the power that lies in the choices we make in how we eat, move, and think—and the state of connection between our brain and the 70-100 trillion cells of our body.  Since Dr. means “teacher” it’s my intention to teach the world this truth.  I want to teach you to become a better adapter to the inevitable changes of your life.

I’m also going to be starting a new series of workshops at the end of each month at the Westgate Wellness Centre called “Stressbuster Workshops” where I will teach powerful tools that I’ve learned to help me overcome the adversities of life.  And I never run out of opportunities to use the tools with the setbacks I perceive every day.  Every great teacher I know has one thing in common: They are students—and so as I learn more tools, I expand my reach and teach more.  It’s been a fun ride so far, and I’m ready to help people take it to the next level in these fun and dynamic workshops.  January 29^th we begin with “Getting excited about your depression”.  We’ll be adding more workshops as the year unfolds, but some more topics will include

Overcoming grief, heartbreak and loss,

The dynamics of anxiety and depression and how to transcend it,

Finding your values and understanding the values of your loved ones,

Overcome relationship conflicts

Letting go of Past Trauma

How to not take things so personally

Stress, Food Addictions, and Weight Loss

I can’t wait to teach this stuff.  To be honest everything I teach is really for me.  I guess it’s true—those that can’t do—teach.  And selfishly, as I teach you to become a better adapter to the inevitable challenges of life– I heal and adapt to my challenges too.  Enjoy the first episode.  Many thanks to Nina from Oh Just Peachy Studios for her great work and guidance.

It’s finally over.  This is the first time I’ve ever participated in a competition like this.  Originally, it was Paul’s idea to get off his derriere because it seems that if he didn’t tie in his lifestyle change to his highest priority—his internet blogging business—then he would continue his downward spiral towards obesity and poor health.  I was up for the challenge—I mean—who couldn’t afford to lose a few pounds and lean up?  I got on board so that I could experience first hand the challenges that people face when trying to change their destructive habits and lose weight and get healthier.  Boy did I ever get more learning that I bargained for.  I will share and summarize with you some of  those strategies.  In fact I’m now going to dedicate my life to teaching them.

Who won?

Here are the gruesome before and after pics, as well as the final weigh in shown above .  I started at over 172 pounds, and I ended up with 161.2.  I realized that I could have even done better if we had a bigger “why” and a tougher goal to reach.  Anyone can lose 10 pounds (or 6% of their body weight) if they really wanted to.

As you can see… 10 pounds doesn’t look significantly different.  But it did account for my clothes fitting much looser, especially my pants.  It’s nice to not feel as self conscious about my gut anymore.  Still there is work to be done.

We went to visit Peter at bodycomp.ca for our “progress report” scan.  Since we did our first body fat scan 2 weeks into our competition, I had already lost half the weight—it would have been great to see the difference if we got the scan before it started.

The results were quite revealing.  It showed that even though I lost around 5 pounds since the scan 6 weeks ago, I also lost .7% body fat– around 2.5 pounds of fat off my mid section.  This picture underneath shows what that looks like approximately. I promise you I wasn’t sucking in my gut!

BUT….I also lost around that much muscle!  BUSTED!

So the revealing fact is—IT REALLY DOESN’T MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WEIGH.  It’s all about body composition.  These scans tell more the truth of the story.

Taken from Paulymath.com-- the fat I had lost around my mid section was the equivalent to 5 of these sticks of butter!

Here’s the truth:  I didn’t go crazy with the muscle building, as surprised as you may be from seeing the pictures  I didn’t increase my workout routine. In fact due to some trips– the workouts decreased.  I was finding that the early morning workouts didn’t work for me, so I did what I did before—worked them into my schedule and didn’t really change that—except because of my schedule they lessened.  So this competition was mainly a dietary shift for me to get over my carb addiction. My exercise regimen was simply to get my body moving, heart rate pumping, and get a healthy dose (minimally) of resistance exercise.  Plus, I wasn’t packing in the protein like you should if you want to increase muscle mass.  From the results of the scans, my muscle mass even decreased around my legs– as a result of me reducing my resistance workouts.

The scan reveals to me that if I want to trim down and put on muscle, I can do so easily (if I have a big enough “why”)— i.e. If Calvin Klein wanted me for their spring underwear catalogue (and pay me big bucks to do so), here’s what I would do:

1)Increase my protein intake with protein shakes.

2) Start doing more heavy duty interval sprints

3) Add in a day or two extra days of resistance exercises for entire body

And then the fun part is to do a scan six weeks later to see the change.  The most empowering part of doing the scans is that it gives you ongoing feedback so that you can see how your daily choices impact your overall results.  Plus, if you’re lucky enough to get a great guy like Peter—he’s a wealth of knowledge about diet and exercise to maximize the results you are looking for.  He works with some elite people who make it their business to look the part.

Your body is a dynamic process that is still unfolding

In other words, if you look in the mirror RIGHT NOW, then what’s staring at you is your history.  From your body weight, to muscle mass, to your financial situation, to your relationship status, even your overall health—everything staring back at you right now is a result of the choices you’ve been making up until now.

“Should I eat the salad or the french fries?”

“Should I spend my money or invest it in myself?”

“Should I be in this relationship because I want to—or is it because I’m afraid of being alone?”

“Should I watch TV tonight or exercise?”

“Should I take these pills or actually try to SOLVE the problem I’m taking the pills for?”

We live in a society where we love to blame our current life situation on others– our parents, our employers, or on the government, and give external influences all our power to hold us back.

The body scan was an “aha” moment for me—To know that I have choices in how my body heals, grows, and re-creates itself.  It’s happening to you right now.  You lose 10 million cells every second, and every second you regain 10 million more, but as they grow, they are gathering information from the environment, and that will dictate if the cells grow towards strength, balance, and health, or towards imbalance, illness, and disease.  I ask my patients this all the time:  Right now, which direction are you heading towards?  (FYI—the stressful thoughts we have actually cause the cells to move towards illness and disease).

So are you going to go crazy on carbs again, Nima?

I think we’re all working towards finding a healthy balance of eating mostly the “right” foods.  I estimated that over the past 8 weeks, without an increase in my exercise, I ate 95% perfectly as a paleolithic hunter gatherer would, with a couple of trips I took where I wasn’t a very good boy, and I still managed to lose weight.

I’m going to stick to my plan:  Eat 90% of foods that are REAL, start with the real stuff (salads, proteins, chicken, meats preferably from organic sources), and then portion control the carbs.  Instead of binging on cookies once a week, and then punishing yourself, why not just stop at 3 bites and stick to that?  Repressing your desires leads to some ugly manifestations.

What’s most impressive to me is that Paul seems to have really caught on and has become inspired to make a permanent healthy change in his life.  I’m going to publicly challenge him to keep it up.  He admitted that before the competition, he was drinking 4 cans of coke per day.  PER DAY!  That’s around 32 teaspoons of sugar.  That’s just in his drinks.  Never mind the other habits.  He cut that down dramatically, but admits he didn’t cut it out.

What’s been inspiring to me is to hear your stories.  I’ve had many chiropractic patients in Maple Ridge and beyond and readers of my blog tell me that this competition I’m participating in has inspired them to take action to lead healthier lives.  Many have lost weight and started exercising themselves.  That’s huge for me.  I guess Michael Jackson was right:

“If you want to make the world a better place

take a look at yourself and then make the change.” -MJ

Dr. Nima’s tips to get you started on losing weight and changing unhealthy habits:

1)   Start by ADDING.  If you are ready for the suffering involved in the first few weeks of cutting carbs and junk cold turkey, and your why is big enough, then be my guest.  Otherwise you will fail.  So start by adding salads, veggies and some fruits BEFORE you reach for the junk.

2)   Plan your meals.  If you don’t plan what you’re going to be eating that day—and when, then you when your blood sugar gets too low, your will power is GONE.  You hear me?  GONE.  And what’s readily available to you when the cravings come?  You guessed it… starbucks and McDonalds.  There goes your whole day.

3)   Research “Paleolithic” diet.  You can pretty much paleolithically all day and you won’t be suffering any cravings.

4)   Start moving, and increase your motion.  If you want to really burn the fat, then do your research in “Burst” or “Surge” or “Interval” training.  It’s all the same thing.

5)   Observe your stress and learn tools to overcome it that don’t involve medicating or self medicating.  Be healthy for a cause that’s greater than for yourself.  Otherwise your unhealthy habits and addictions will take you over.

This is exactly why I’m now expanding my reach to inform the world in a very simple and fun way about the devastating effects of stress on the body, and strategies we can use every day to overcome it.  Stress is at the underlying root cause of most food addictions and weight gain as well as every other health problem… so why not learn to attack it from it’s root cause?  I present to you in the next couple of days….the beginning of my 5 part series called “Stressbusters”.  Please feel free to retweet, comment, like, and share.  And let me know what else you would like some guidance and information on!

Holy cow.  Just look back on this year.  All the stuff you went through.  The ups, the downs, the highs and the lows.  If you were like me, you had some pretty high highs…. And some low-low’s.

For me, 2010 represented a huge growth cycle for me.  Things are always transforming around the office, new staff, some amazing transformative breakthroughs in healing with some patients, and some pretty bitter disappointments (just like in your life as well as mine).

We just had our staff Christmas party.  I sat down with each of the people I work with and asked them all the same question.  I’m going to ask you the same.

“What did you learn from your experiences in 2010?”

The answers were all different, but profound, and they are universally true, so I would like for you to gain wisdom from the wisdom gained by my team this past year.

“I learned not to take my health for granted”.

This was from someone who spent a great deal of the early part of the year injured, so she couldn’t work.  She started taking better care of herself, put her own health as a priority, made some better choices which supported that, and saw the transformation.  Notice how it was through this challenge that she learned her lesson.

“I learned that life is short, and to let go of needing to control every part of my life”.

This was shared by my assistant Bobbi, who’s little baby (who happened to be the cutest old dog) Hyde suffered a rapid decline of health.  She was by his side every single day for the last few months of his life and came back with her usual amazing spirit after he passed away— only to realize that when one baby was gone—another was on the way.  She’s used to being in control of all areas of her life and this was something that her and her partner didn’t have in the immediate plans.  Big lesson.  Notice how this learning can only occur through a challenge of this magnitude.

There were some other lessons that were drawn from the challenges my team was facing in their lives:

“Our family’s struggles brought us closer”.

This one team member’s family dug themselves out of an unexpected debt by sticking together and planning and strategizing.

“I need to maintain a good sense of balance”

This was something that one of my team said she realized after trying to do too much of one thing. 

“Also, instead of putting off things, I’m now taking action.”

“I learned to stay present”

This last one was what one of my team said after going through some health and well-being challenges with her daughter.

After seeing the effects of Parkinson’s disease gradually take over his ability to move, one of our team member’s husband said that he is

“letting go of my need for control”

and he’s learning to

“Allow”.

Pat, after digging deep to find herself in a theatrical role she had to play this year as a hobby, said what she learned from that challenging role was to

“Be authentic to myself.”

One of our team’s wives faced some health challenges that rendered her to be unsafe to drive a vehicle.  Her lesson for this year was

“I can be who I am and not have to follow society’s ideas of who I should be.”

So now I present you with Westgate Wellness Centre’s Secrets to fullfillment that has been learned from 2010.  Let’s have some fun and call it “Westgate’s 9 commandments to abundant wisdom.”  Remember, these people, special as we all are, don’t possess anything different than you possess within yourself.

Westgate’s 9 Commandments to Abundant Wisdom gathered from 2010:

1)   Do Not Taketh Thy Health For Granted

2)   Thou Shalt be aware that life is Shorteth rather than Longeth.  We will all be deadeth some day.

3)   Thou can’t possibly be in controleth of every aspect of lifeth.  So Alloweth.

4)   Thou Shalt Maketh thine struggles an opportunity to bringeth thine family togethered. (?)

5)   Thou Shalt Maintaineth a sense of balance in thine lifeth.

6)   Thou Shalt raise yourself off thine asseth and taketh some action.

7)   Thou Shalt stay present.  Good lucketh with that one!

8)   Thou Shalt be authentic to thineself

9)   While Thou art being thine authentic self, be not overly concernedeth for the opinions and expectations of others.

The 10^th commandment I saved special for you.  It came from my grandfather, who’s almost 91 years old.  I asked him the same question: “Grandpa, what did you learn in 2010?”

His response had me in stitches with laughter.  He said “There’s no more lessons to learn.  The challenge is trying not to forget what I’ve already learned.”

It’s actually funnier in Farsi.  But I’m sure you get it.  His body is weakening but his mind is still sharp as a tack.

Stay tuned… on my next posting I’ll update my transformation challenge and share the lessons I’ve learned in this pivotal year of my life.  Some of my lessons will help you too, I’m sure.

I’m asking for your input:  What lessons did 2010 give you?  What challenges did you go through to learn them?  Please post a comment below.  You never know how your lesson will help someone else.

There’s only a little over 2 weeks left in the competition.  Paul just posted on his blog that he’s reached his target already… he’s already lost 6% of his body fat by weight measurement (if you recall we through out our body fat % scale as it’s a piece of useless inaccurate crap).

I’ve reached my initial goal as well—but like many things in my life, I suffer from the “it ain’t good enough” disease.  I wonder if there’s a pill for that—maybe I should create one and market it.  Does anyone share this disorder with me?  No matter how good you do, it just ain’t good enough– More on this later.

Have you found your soul mate but are now trying to change them every day?  Are you earning the dollar amount that you had in mind 10 years ago, but still it’s not enough to make ends meet?  Or in my case, did you reach a goal—a weight loss challenge and still manage to find a way to beat up a part of yourself for it?  Or am I the only one with this “disease”?

I just recently came back from a retreat/course with other Doctors of Chiroractic.  I knew that sticking to my paleolithic hunter-gatherer diet was going to be difficult while on the road, but I didn’t think it was going to be this impossible!  One of the doctors who was there was a gal from Boston who was a regular follower of my blog.  I would catch her looking at my plate when I took a dessert and shaking her head and saying “what about your competition?  I thought you were off carbs!  That looks like carbs to me!”  My first reaction was to say “shut up b____!”  but then again that was probably the carbs talking.

First time I was up in this altitude 8600ft for so long. I was wondering why a 30 second walk to the conference center was causing me such grief.

The course was called “Total Solution” in the Mountains just outside Colorado Springs… Designed as a retreat, plus a training for Westgate Wellness Centre’s brand new “Insight” machine that measures how your body is storing stress, and how your body’s adapting to stress.  The reason why I bought the machine is because I’m branching out in my influence to become an authority and expert on my favorite topic– Stress.

Since we all know that 75-90% of the reason why you are visiting the doctor is because of Stress, I want to specialize in early detection of the devastating effects of stress—both in the Nervous system, and globally throughout the body.   This machine called the “Subluxation Station” does just that.  If I can catch it early and measure how your autonomic nervous system (the part of your Nervous System that is responsible for your stress response) is functioning, we can work out a strategy that will enable you to move towards balance, before you’re forced to do it after a devastating diagnosis of heart disease, cancer, diabetes, arthritis, you name it.  We can make lifestyle recommendations to correct something even before it shows up in a blood test.  How frikking cool is that?

This 5-day course was to train me on how to use the technology and interpret the results so I can be a better doctor to my patients.

A few of my new "TS Bastards" family. I love them all-- SMTO (some more than others)

Let’s just say I got way more than I bargained for.  This turned out to be a personal development seminar as well.  Not only was it enlightening for me, but I would watch doctors from around the world, young and old, break through some of their own personal stories that have held them back.  I would even help coach some of them through their stories until they got to the point that there’s nothing they would change about their lives.  It was uplifting for all of us.  I made some lifetime friends.  I love them all—some more than others (that’s our little inside joke).  The biggest aha moment I had was a bit of a breakthrough for me, and I thought it was so valuable that I wanted to share it — for those of you having challenges with your relationship with money.  Have you ever found yourself to be in a “Scarcity Mentality?”– in other words, fear that you don’t or won’t have enough?  That’s been my biggest challenge for the past few years even though I know it’s absolutely ridiculous.

I pride myself in constantly striving to grow and learn more about myself and become a better communicator.  I have read countless books and taken courses on personal growth, on business success, on relationships, on money, on health… but the one thing that plagued me was the disease of “never enough”… because I discovered that despite all my efforts, I still struggle with a “scarcity” mentality… fear of lack.

I watched my father work for great companies that started to struggle in difficult economic times throughout his career, which drove me to want to be my own boss.  I watched my family’s nest egg disappear with the collapse of the stock market in the earlier part of this millenia.  I graduated with a $100,000 student debt (that was 10 years ago remember) at the age of 25 and felt it was a dark cloud that followed me around.  Pretty crazy how strong my scarcity mentality has been.  I’ve been in denial about it all this time.

The upside of my perceived scarcities

Now, my scarcity mentality has had it’s benefits:  I’ve managed (along with my staff and associates of course) to turn the company I own around—when I first started at Westgate, the previous owner was borrowing Peter to pay Paul.  He would often ask me to hold on to my paycheque a few days before depositing it.  Slowly, over time, Westgate started to turn around, and now, 3 years after I bought the clinic (another huge debt I took on), Westgate Wellness Centre won the 2010 “Business Excellence Award—under 20 employees” category with the Maple Ridge Chamber of Commerce.  The fun part was knowing that all the other companies nominated are run by patients of mine.  (or should I say former patients?)  We’ve had the most successful year in the history of the clinic.  So what’s holding me back from letting go of my scarcity mentality?

I got my answer.  We had a brilliant young entrepeneur, who was a millionaire by the age of 26– he’s now 32– Garrett Gunderson (author of Bestseller “Killing Sacred Cows”) show up to talk to us about creating value for our clients and answer questions about the business side of our profession—the part that we often just neglect.  We assume that we have to be loving/caring healers, and that includes us having to become martyrs and not expect a fair compensation for the value we give in exchange (huge contradiction).  And when we start investing in stocks, mutual funds, houses and rental properties for the purpose of expanding our wealth, we are only distracting ourselves from our Soul Purpose.  In a nutshell, there were a few key things I learned that I would love to pass on that will help you:

Things to consider about your financial head-space

1)   Invest in your Soul Purpose.  This means invest in the expansion of your reach.  In my case, having a rental property and chasing down tenants for the rent is a distraction.  Investing in staff, equipment, and courses, coaching– all stuff that is in alignment with my mission and purpose will provide a MUCH greater return.  Are you investing in your soul purpose?  Do you even know what that is?  When would you like to find out?

2)   Don’t invest money that will put you in a scarcity mode.  That will affect your level of service.

3)   To get out of scarcity mode, put yourself deliberately in growth mode:   Exercise, meditate, do your affirmations, read books that expand your reach, and visualize every single day, and be grateful for what you have.  Don’t wait for things to change before you do what’s necessary for your growth. (Basic stuff– try it for 90 days and watch the magic happen).

4)  High level achievers are all unique in that they HIRE A COACH that they resonate with.  Read, study, go to classes and seminars, and watch your dreams start to unfold when you have the private instruction of someone you think has got what you’re looking for.  In other words, you wouldn’t hire someone to advise you on finances who is more broke than you are.  You wouldn’t go to a doctor who looks unhealthy– WOULD YOU?

5) Be grateful.  Have fun.  I know I said it before… it’s worth mentioning again.  Even though we all say we are grateful, we can always increase the moments in our day when we stop and become consciously aware of everything we have to be grateful for.  Why not have some fun with it?

Believe me, one of the greatest realizations for me was that if everything I had were taken away from me now, I would be telling you with great regret that “I had it all”.  You’d probably be in the same boat too.  I just had a patient tell me about all the stresses in her life– “I have 3 rental properties and it’s difficult managing tenants.”

Believe me, I know first hand the frustrations you can have with tenants– but why not start focusing on how grateful you are to have the ability to afford 3 rental properties?  Maybe you’d attract better tenants!

Body Transformation and Stressbusters Seminars.

Even as a fat man-- admit it-- I'm still a hot piece of tail.

(My dog is licking my face right now and wants to go for a walk.)  I have 2 weeks left before I have to post up some embarrassing shirtless pictures of myself– funny how I did that a few weeks ago and I had the most hits ever on my site.  What do I have to do to get you guys to pay attention– keep getting naked on my blog????

Paul has done quite well– he’s already reached his goal.  He had a survey on his blog that asked who looked hotter…. Me or him?  He was shocked at the reply:  5 people voted for him, 7 people voted for me.  I was shocked too.  How on earth did 5 people vote for his fat ass?  I have some major work to do.

Oh, by the way—the time has come—I’m going to be launching my Stressbuster’s video blog series.  My question to you is this:  Can you tell me other than stuffing your face with junk food—what do YOU do to manage your stress?  If I put together some seminars on food addictions, weight loss and stress– would you be interested?